Are you a “POSITIVE PATSY” or a “NEGATIVE NANCY”?

Are you a “POSITIVE PATSY” or a “NEGATIVE NANCY”?

Is your cup half empty or half full? What would your family say? What would your friends say?

I am going to pose a few scenarios below, Answer honestly to gain insight as to where your “positive meter” lands.

What would your reactions be in the following scenarios?

1. You go through a drive thru. You specifically say, “no pickles”. You pull out and…uh-oh there are exactly 4 pickles on your sandwich.
You..

a. Remove the pickles yourself and chow down. You recognize the employee was very busy and looked stressed. You hope her day gets better.

b. Roll your eyes, and immediately think about how they ALWAYS mess up your order! UGH! You may or may not eat the sandwich anyway, because ya know, waste not, want not.

c. Turn the car around, walk in and demand a refund and a new sandwich, while noting how frustrating it is you had to go through all of this trouble when you said, “NO PICKLES” in the first place.

2. You are driving to work. The car in front of you abruptly stops causing you to slam on the brakes. You spill coffee on your shirt.
You…

a. are thankful you keep napkins in the glove box and are even more thankful you didn’t wreck!

b. honk your horn! They should really be more careful!

c. Honk your horn with a finger gesture. AND OH GREAT, your shirt is ruined. Well, there goes your hopes for a good day!

3. Your friend doesn’t text you back.
You…

a. know they will get back to you when they can!

b. will give them approximately 5 minutes before you text again.

c. wonder if they realize how good of a friend you are. You ALWAYS respond when they text you.

Each ‘a’ is worth 3 points.
Each ‘b’ is worth 2 points.
Each ‘c’ is worth 1 point.

If you received 8-9 points, you are POSITIVE PATSY!
If you received 5-7 points, you are HAPPY HILLARY!
If you received >5 points, read on my little Negative Nancy

I have GOOD NEWS! Obviously, I made that quiz up and it has no scientific bearing whatsoever! Buuuttttt, a positive outlook can truly enhance your daily life and mental health!

FACT: It is easier to be negative in the moment of something unfortunate happening than to be positive.

ALSO FACT: Being positive will feel so much better than being negative in the long run.

I don’t think anyone wants to be negative. I believe people become that way for a variety of reasons.

One reason is that negativity is a defense mechanism. If I don’t get my hopes up, I will not be disappointed. If I expect to be let down, or for things to go wrong, then I won’t be taken off guard when they do. Some people are negative to prevent themselves from being vulnerable.

Another reason is that we may be surrounded by negative people. You really are the sum of the company you keep.

A negative mindset is harmful because it will take your current joy and prevent your future joy! Below I have listed some strategies that are GUARANTEED (by yours truly) to help you become more positive!

1. Ask yourself if it will matter in ten years. Will you remember they accidentally left pickles on your sandwich or that you spilled coffee ten years from today? No, so these are NOT reasons to be negative! These are “let it go” moments that are not worth your energy!

2.Avoid using words like “never” or “always”. They are dramatic words and are hardly ever true. They make you feel worse about the situation and contribute to pity parties. No one wants that!

3. Have an attitude of gratitude. It is difficult to be negative when you are thankful! We all have things to be grateful for!

4. Check your company. If you always feel drained after spending time with someone, that could be a sign their energy is negative. Limit your interactions with that person.

5. SMILE!
It may be fake at first, but usually people will smile back, and that will eventually trigger a real one! 🙂

Life is short, friend! A bad day is not a bad life! Each morning, declare that TODAY IS A GOOD DAY TO HAVE A GOOD DAY and let your light shine!

Let’s be the POSITIVE PATSYS of the world!

Love, Amy

’tis the most wonderful time of the year… unless it isn’t.

’tis the most wonderful time of the year… unless it isn’t.

Hum this tune with me.

’tis the most wonderful time of the year….

 Unless it isn’t.

Maybe you are struggling because this is the first holiday without a loved one, the first holiday after your divorce, your miscarriage, your child moving away, your loss of a job and a financial change, your break-up, your argument, your relapse, your loneliness, your __________. Fill in the blank. There is a reason and you are struggling. You cry in the bathroom but fix your make-up and exit with a smile. You look in the mirror and wonder if you are getting ANYthing right. You feel certain you aren’t. You pray, read, try to distract yourself, but when the chaos stills, your mind worries and your heart hurts. Read more

Introductions.

Introductions.

Hey, there!

My name is Amy, and this is my first blog. For some reason, it gives me anxiety to use that word. I am ecstatic and humbled your curiosity made you click that link. Writing is therapeutic for me, and ever since my angsty teenage years, I have written my life down on paper. My journals go wayyy back. We are talking Saved By the Bell era. Read more